Throughout Thanksgiving, I refused to show sadness. I wasn’t going to blog anything sad. I wasn’t going to post anything sad. I wasn’t going to utter anything sad.
Today, at work, the façade cracked and a co-worker noticed. I had to fess up.
I am not okay.
Throughout my husband’s decline, I had the weight of the world on my shoulders. I carried all financial responsibilities, along with watching his decline.
But I still had him as a sounding board. If I heard a crazy noise coming from my vehicle, I could consult with him. He would calmly talk me down, explaining what it could be. It never was as bad as my mind imagined. If work had to be done on my house, he was the ultimate handyman. He always had a solution to whatever repair we faced.
I thought I had the weight of the world on my shoulders back then. The weight has shifted. And it got heavier. Granted, without having to pay for his medical issues, I regained some financial freedom; however, I have the weight of every decision being mine and mine alone. I no longer have a partner to bounce anything off of in order to make a sound decision.
I feel like everything is breaking – my house, my car, my mind…….
I am intimidated. I am vulnerable. I am alone.
I know, I know, I know. I have been preaching God’s word and God’s goodness for weeks now. I know all about Psalm 69:1 – “Save me, O God, for the floodwaters are up to my neck.” I can recite many other verses, but right now my mind is not taking comfort in them. I need to flounder in my self-pity a while longer.
I am experiencing deep anxiety.
I am not okay.
My friends and loved ones will be nervous to read this. Don’t be. Eventually, I will be okay. Probably by next week I will bounce back seeking God’s word and strength. I have always been resilient like that.
But for today, I am not okay.
Today, I want to peel my skin off and climb out of it.
Today, I do not want to be me.
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And do not hide your face from your servant, for I am in distress. Answer me quickly. Psalm 69:17