CLUTTER! This time of year, parents start thinning out children’s toys to make way for an influx of Christmas presents. People start looking forward to a new year, and vow to be more organized. Markets are gearing up for promoting books and items to help you organize. In other words, buy more clutter to help corral your clutter. The irony!
I have been back home for 6 months, and have spent way too many weekends battling clutter – purging, donating, throwing away and burning. I should be out with family and friends, starting to actually live my new life. But no. I only have two days out of the week to do this, so I grab every chance I get. I even joined a site where I get daily messages for one year to re-train my brain how to deal with every type of clutter, whether physical or emotional. Funny thing is, I rarely open the messages and this is now cluttering my inbox. More irony!
Just about every weekend has been dedicated to simplifying my life by having less possessions. I cannot believe how much clutter has been stuffed into this tiny house. It’s insane. First world problems. Clutter is controlling my life. I made a vow that once this massive project is finished, I will think twice before buying any item and bringing into my home.
This weekend, I parted with some of my husband’s kitchen items I knew I would never use. That hurt. I felt so guilty. I was so sad going through his clutter, and this made me cry. Did he even think of the mess he was leaving me in when he took his own life? I guess not. I am sure clutter was not the last thing on his mind.
I want to get rid of as much clutter as I can so that my children are not faced with clearing out my clutter when I join their father in heaven.
I had to take a break to regroup. Of course, a break meant perusing FB. Mental clutter. A memory popped up from 5 years ago. It was a picture of two of my oldest grands decorating our Christmas tree. I remember my granddaughter was quite peeved we bought a tree off of a lot and didn’t cut a scrub pine out of the woods. I looked at my dining room table and it was covered with clutter. Groan! That table clutter was the bane of existence for me and my husband. We lack storage in this small house, so things ended up on top of our table (including a dirt bike my husband was working on for our grandson – but that is a story for another day).
We had a lot of good memories around that table – family gatherings – crawfish boils. But when I moved back home 6 months ago, all I saw was clutter. The table was really too big for our house to begin with. And I just couldn’t see gatherings happening there anymore. My mom was gone, my husband was gone, my stepdad is getting too old to head up this way. No, it hurt too much to keep the table. I gave it to one of my best friend’s. Her family hosts other families after church, and I knew she would create great memories like we did. This did my heart good.
But back to that picture. I looked closely at the clutter. My grandkids were wearing their Santa hats. Ornaments were all over the table. The plastic bin holding Christmas decoration clutter was sitting on a chair. I saw my grandkids school pictures. We had a clutter of egg cartons donated to us for our 60 laying hens. There was a garden watering can, probably to fill the tree base. That was my favorite little can to water my herb garden.
But the biggest memory was my husband’s flannel jacket thrown over a chair. He wore his flannel jackets until they were in threads and embarrassing. However, we couldn’t throw any away until we found one to replace it. That ratty jacket was always thrown over a dining room chair, the back of a recliner or on the bed. As he got older and was on blood thinners, he wore this jacket year ‘round because he was always cold. Seeing this flannel jacket tugged at my heart.
This time, clutter was a beautiful thing.
A time to seek, and a time to lose; a time to keep, and a time to cast away. Ecclesiastes 3:6.
See – even the Bible is telling me to cast a way my clutter.
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